Tools for Coping With Tragedy

Dojo Families, In the immediate aftermath of the heart-wrenching tragedy that has befallen the community of Sandy Hook many people took to the internet to vent their rage and sadness. Sadly this only provides a false balm against the feelings of impotence that we all (especially parents) are feeling at the news of the horror as it unfolded. Like some of you, Tammy and I mourned quietly, turned off all media to shield Kailey from the constant barrage coming from radio and television and kept our child close. For years Tammy and I have been engaging in readiness “games” with Kailey. We have a series of code-words and emergency plans in the event of an emergency. You would laugh at some of the things we considered before sending Kailey to school; Tracking devises satellite phones etc. We wanted to share with you all some of the information and ideas we are reviewing to help us be prepared and to respond to the tragedy in Connecticut. Aftermath: Limit your child's exposure to news coverage. An onslaught of television coverage can generate tremendous anxiety. Media, news, and images are everywhere right now, as are lively and passionate discussions, so we may have to take conscious steps to shield our young ones from inappropriate and explicit exposure to this. I always hesitate to make broad sweeping statements about how people should parent, but I also see how our news media are able to send streams of concentrated information through the screens and radios, focusing upon the sensational actions and events of the few, while regularly failing to report upon the generous and loving behavior of most of us. Because something is 'newsworthy' does not mean it is a balanced reflection of humanity, nor a vehicle to communicate the tremendous benevolence and goodness of so many people. In this way, media is wholly inorganic, and can impact sensitive children in very unhealthy ways. Encourage your children to talk and share their feelings. Try as we might to shield our children they will hear bits and pieces about this tragedy. Keep your eyes and ears open as your child may have questions about the events or that may make statements about what they have heard from their peers. This is a good time for parents to discuss with their children the importance of speaking to a trusted adult concerning matters that they hear about in the media and online. Keep the dialog open. 1. Keep your explanations developmentally appropriate. 1. Early elementary school children need brief, simple information that should be balanced with reassurances that the daily structures of their lives will not change. 2. Upper elementary and early middle school children will be more vocal in asking questions about whether they truly are safe and what is being done at their school. They may need assistance separating reality from fantasy. 3. Upper middle school and high school students will have strong and varying opinions about the causes of violence and threats to safety in schools and society. They will share concrete suggestions about how to make school safer and how to prevent tragedies in society. They will be more committed to doing something to help the victims and affected community. 4. For all children, encourage them to verbalize their thoughts and feelings. Be a good listener! For more information you may visit http://www.nasponline.org/resources/crisis_safety/terror_general.aspx Taking Action – Preparation, Ever watch kittens play? They bite at the throat, claw at the belly and go through the motions of feline combat, it looks adorable but serves a purpose. The play combat engaged across nature serves to teach the skills needed for adult animals to survive the harsh realities of nature. In the same way we can teach our children necessary survival skills. To keep it “playful” I like to use Zombies as the hypothetical bad guys, or bad fairies or Cobra Commander from G.I. Joe whatever works for your child. I want to share a few things we do with our daughter on a regular basis. The Password. Tammy, Kailey and I devised a secret password in case we cannot be there to pick her up or someone tries to lure her into a car saying they are friends of mom and dad. We chose it together, no one else knows it, period. We train/play with the password at least once a month. The Way Out / How to Find Help. Nearly anytime we go to a new location we discuss the best way to get out in a hurry. Since most people in a panic will try and go out the same way they entered we seek exits that will not be blocked in the event of a fire or disaster. In the event she was to get separated from us in a public place she knows to go to a police officer, a woman with a child or a worker/ security guard, In that order. She also knows never to leave the area with anyone. She is regularly quizzed on her mother’s cell number. In the coming weeks I plan to tour Kailey’s school (again) and review exit strategies and places of concealment. We will pretend we are planning to be the worlds best hide and seek players. Maybe we will have to rescue some sick fairies and take them to secret fairy hospitals around her campus. Our mission is to train for the worst case scenarios while shielding our child and keeping it playful. Resources. I posted this very video a few months ago. Please review. For adult viewers. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VcSwejU2D0 For those of you who LOVE to read here is a link from Marc MacYoung’s page. There is a lot of info here. However, Marc has a vast history and understanding of human violence. http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/activeshooter.html Gaven De Beckers Amazon Page, I especially recommend “Protecting the Gift” http://www.amazon.com/Gavin-de-Becker/e/B001HCVD06/ref=sr_tc_2_0?qid=1355621955&sr=8-2-ent http://www.amazon.com/Am-Not-Target-Artist-Provided/dp/B000CPH9JI/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1355726061&sr=8-1&keywords=%22I+Am+Not+A+Target%22 Finally KSK martial arts will be hosting a training and discussion on personal and family safety shortly after the first of the New Year. In the meantime, hug your children. Until then I’ll see you on the mat. Gregory Poretz

Here is the sign in form for KSK Martial Arts Demo Team. First practice this Friday ! Demo Flyer

Halloween Notes / Uniform Etiquette and Care / Homework Club / Demo Team

Halloween Notes / Uniform Etiquette and Care / Homework Club / Demo Team YOUR JUDO UNIFORM IS NOT A HALLOWEEN COSTUME ! Safety Tips For Kids! (review with your child before trick or treating) ♥ Have older kids take along two or more friends trick or treating. If your child is 12 or younger, you or another trusted adult should go along. ♥ Remind your child to stop only at houses that are well-lit and stay in neighborhoods that are familiar. ♥ Have your child carry a flashlight. ♥ Tell your child to NEVER enter a person’s home or car for a treat. ♥ Get to know the entire route trick-or-treaters intend to follow and agree with your child on a specific time to return home. ♥ Tell your child to stay on the sidewalks and only cross the street at intersections. ♥ Make sure your child’s costume is flame resistant, allows for safe walking, is easily visible at night and does not obstruct sight. Consider putting reflective tape on your child’s costume and bag to increase visibility. ♥ Tell your child not to eat any treats until they return home. Inspect all treats and dispose of anything that seems to have been tampered with. ♥ If anyone bothers or approaches your child, remind them to take 3 steps back, yell “NO!” and runaway quickly. Tell them to seek out a group of trick-or-treaters accompanied by an adult and tell what just happened. All Students Must Mark Judo uniforms and equipment. Please take all gear and uniforms home every Friday. Proper folding of judo gi Caring for your Judo uniform The manufacturers suggested care is to always wash your uniform in cold water and hang dry. Never use bleach to clean your uniform. Adhering to this method will provide you with the longest wear for your investment. Using liquid fabric softener may also reduce the life of your uniform. My favorite liquid detergent for white uniform is Tide Bleach Alternative. Soaking in Oxiclean solution will help remove stains. One cup of baking soda in your wash will help keep your uniform white and remove odors. One cup of white vinegar in the wash will help kill mold. Some of us have stains on the collar around the neck and shoulder cavity area. This maybe our body's oil due to our diet of high fat contented food. I use Spray and Wash or Shout directly on the stained area before each wash. Always wash your uniform as soon as you can after practice and your uniform will always stay clean and fresh. Washing your uniform in warm or hot water may shrink your uniform significantly unless you have a preshrunk uniform. Drying your uniform in a dryer will also shrink your uniform unless you have a preshrunk uniform. The tumbling action in the dryer will shorten the life of your uniform significantly. While the uniform is still wet coming out of the washer. You can stretch the sleeves by pulling or snapping on it before hang drying. This will help to keep the length of the sleeves close to the original lenght. This method applies to all manufacturer. Demo Team. Practice will begin Sunday, interested students should make every effort to attend.

Hale Middle School Event Tomorrow Tuesday 2-8

When Where What to Bring

We will be giving four 45 min presentations.
8:20
9:15
10:25
11:20

Where Hale Middle School,
23830 Califa St, Woodland Hills, CA 91367

We will meet on site at 8AM

DIRECTIONS FROM KSK MARTIAL ARTS TO HALE MIDDLE SCHOOL CLICK OR CUT AND PASTE http://tinyurl.com/4nrv7ft

Attached is aerial map, you will see our presentation area at the North-west end of the campus by Califa and Platt. we can park in the school parking area on Califa. Just tell them you are a part of the martial arts demo.
Also attached is an outline of the presentation. The materiel is pretty simple, our job will be to be positive and encourage good effort.

KSK Students please wear you white gi pants and a black dojo shirt. Have you gi top and belt handy for demonstrations. We will be training outside so wear your shoes.
After the last demo we are invited to participate in the rally and and eat from the gourmet food trucks.

Contact me with any questions.

GP

Here is the Curriculum for the day. Your job will be to encourage and gently correct.


Violence Avoidance Training / Anti Bully Workshop
Class Goal: Teach avoidance of violence via martial arts. // deputize martial artists in the crowd.
Martial Arts Ancient Secrets of All Cultures: Handed only to the most trusted persons in a society.
We start with respect. Bow // we train in silence and listen carefully.
Martial Artists have a code we work very hard never to break that code.
What is a bully? Did you have an older brother or sister? You were bullied. Were you an older brother or sister chances are you did some bullying.
Bully vs. Bodyguard discussion.
Stance: Ready Stance vs Fighting Stance;
Have students mimic a fight stance, fists and war face. Explain that is exactly what the movies show.
Explain the Fist is a commitment/ agreement to fight and difficult to back down from.
Demonstrate a ready stance; show the power of STOP, by showing one hand.
Have students try ready stance. Demonstrate kiai, stop.
Striking arts, palm with kiai, single strike, one/two strike. Knee, single, double
Elbow block – High reach up and cup back of head.
Low elbow - squeeze you arm elbow down into your body
Wrist Escapes Two hand on two wrists. // Two on one.
Front Neck Choke narrow grab- wide grab -
Rear Neck Choke (just like momiji hazushi but from the rear)
We will also demo more exciting variations of the arts, we will add and subtract arts as needed.

Transported After School Martial Arts Program

Parents, do you need a supervised after school activity? Would you like to have you family evenings back without the homework hassles? Could you use an extra three or four hours a day? Then you should look into the KSK After School Homework Club. Kids are picked up from local schools (or dropped off by you.) Homework is completed with supervision, students enjoy a vigorous martial arts lesson and you have your family evenings back ! There are only a few slots available so contact us right away. If you know of someone who could benefit from our program please pass on this info.

Esoteric Teachings of Professor Henry S. Okazaki

Like a drawing in India ink of the whispering of wind in the pines, the secrets of Judo can only be suggested. Only through personal experience can one comprehend the mystic ecstasy of such secrets.

*Homework*
Adults
Youth JJ

What does this mean to YOU ?
Think and write a small paragraph. We will discuss in class.

December Holiday Schedule

Attached is the December Holiday Schedule.
Highlights Dojo Closed Friday, Saturday, Sunday December 3rd, 4th,5th. For Camp South.
Dojo Closed Christmas Eve December 24th and December 25th.
Dojo Closed December 31st and Jan 1st.

Have a safe and happy holiday season.

Sensei